Wednesday, 3 September 2014

Day 277 - Neglecting potential friendships

So, I was in a class for a week during last week, and there were some cool people in my class that I could have gotten to know better. I realised that I approached the class itself with the thinking that "I'm not here to make friends, I'm here to study to the best of my ability and to get the best grades that I can get." And I think that while that's cool to do that of course, it's also cool to socialise somewhat and get to know some people that I realise that I could have common interests with.

But I need to make an actual effort. Like, I need to somehow keep in contact with these people by getting their phone numbers or adding them on Facebook or something similar. Obviously I have to get to know them first to check out the common interests and things like that. But at the same time, it's not like there's a great deal of time to get to know someone. We only had a few breaks during class time to socialise. But I really want to change my approach to class time specifically. And actually, even to work.

Basically any situation, I shouldn't neglect potential friendships. It's cool to socialise with others. Socialise with others in person, as opposed to always in an online scenario. Online is cool too, but that in person contact/physical contact is really cool as well. I read someone else's blog a while ago and they mentioned that it's good to have a bit of both, online socialising, and in person socialising, and I agree. But even in general terms, I realise that I've approached a lot of things with the mindset that "I don't need anybody else, as long as I can write daily within self-forgiveness/commitment statements, I'll be fine." You know, stuff like that.

So, I've neglected the in person social side within my life. Perhaps there are others out there who do not need any in person socialisation. I thought I was that person, but not anymore. When I was younger, I used to socialise physically (in person) with others a lot more than I do these days. But that's also down to the drifting apart of friends. Which is a common trait among people as far as I'm concerned. You know, people lose contact over time, whether it's because of school finishing, changing of schools etc. But yes within this, I take full responsibility for the 'drifting apart' of my past friendships. I allowed that to happen, obviously.

So, apart from 'rekindling' my past friendships, I'm going to make an effort to NOT neglect present/future potential friendships. Because as I mentioned earlier, that physical socialisation is important to me. If there's no physical socialisation, then there is just computer/online socialisation as far as I'm concerned. I want both of those. They can both support me, make me realise things about myself, and that's cool and that's what I want in life.

Self-forgiveness/commitment statements to come..

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